THESE days it has become a norm in most churches that congregants kick off the year with fasting for days. Yes, it is a good thing, but always know where to draw the line.
If your partner is not taking part in fasting, please make sure you do not starve him and the children. It is always ideal to make your family understand and not force them resulting in misunderstandings at home. How can you fast while busy with fights on the other hand?
These days people seek God like never before. Many of my sisters go for 40 days or two months fasting, which is good. My worry is that during the fasting they even fast in the bedroom.
They make sure that they don’t partake in the bedroom game as they associate the forbidden fruit with evil.
Can I warn you? Even when you are busy fasting asking for God’s intervention in your life, remember your family and make sure that during those days your behaviour does not push your man into the hands of someone else.
Do not starve your man for too long. Men are men; they were created in a different way. It’s very hard for them to go for a long time without having that succulent forbidden fruit.
The fruit is so tempting once you taste it, it is hard to let go. Especially with men they are so weak. You find that when they are young they are the ones who are always spanked for stealing sugar, jam, honey or powdered milk.
As they grow up and taste the honey in the cookie jar they make sure they pay lobola so that the honey pot stays in their bedrooms! Just put yourself in his shoes, how will it feel like to be sexually starved for a month? How awkward it becomes when he gets home hungry for you and after weeks you still remind him that you are fasting.
Don’t you think he will find someone who will supply him with the Garden of Eden diet for those 40 days until you finish your fast?
Don’t get me wrong. I love my Christian sisters, they are hot and organised, BUT you will find Christians divorcing just like any other normal human being, yet they fast fighting against evil spirits forgetting to satisfy their men’s needs and wants.
Someone is already asking herself where do ladies go wrong to deserve those divorces and break ups when they pray that much. Yes, you cook very well and bath very well. You are hot but something is wrong. Christian ladies tend to draw boundaries when it comes to sex. They find some sexual acts disgusting. I will say it as it is. I am talking about romance, that steamy sex and all those little things which will make both of you reach the big O.
If your man likes to be sucked on his one-eyed monster, if you don’t do it he will get someone who is interested in doing it to him, someone who will be willing to do it without complaining. You will remain busy praying at home while he is gone.
The Bible has no manual for sex. It does not say “Thou shall not caress.” In fact it is against fornication, bestiality and incest. And in the book of Ecclesiastes it says, “Nothing is new under the sun.”
So the man is yours give him the pleasures he wants before he gets it elsewhere.
Some of my sisters are so stingy. When he turns to you for love you push him away with your elbow. That elbow is for balancing the arm, not for hitting your man when he seeks another round at night. Some hide under the curtain of being tired. My friend I am telling you, one day you will wish there could be someone who can at least make you sweat. It will be too late, he will be gone.
I know some of you are in the choir at church. You wake up early on Sundays and put on your beautiful clothes, perfume and accessories.
He admires you while he is in bed. He grabs you to have a quickie before you leave for church but you pull away and tell him that you are late for church. You leave him burning with passion.
My sister, you will remain singing and crying in the choir. He will be gone. Do not deprive him of his conjugal rights. He is entitled to them. Dish that honey to him anytime and anyway he wants it. Remember you are one flesh, it’s no longer your body, it’s his. He has to do whatever he wants to do with your body.
Sisters, it is a good thing to start the year with fasting and prayer, but always engage your better half. Come up with a schedule which will not cause serious marital problems.
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