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The secret of pet names

Nhlalwenhle Ncube

HI sisters, hope you all got pet names or once had one which always brings a smile on your face when you think about it.

I know a pet name is something which always makes a heart beat faster because ita��s coined with sentimental value.

A pet name is that affectionate name used to express fondness such as cutie, baby, honey, sweetie, my bae, my chocolate and the list goes on and on.

It is unfortunate that most couples use pet names when they are boyfriend and girlfriend and once they move in together, ita��s the end of story. These sweet names should continue till death do you apart as they have a large impact in a relationship.

Using pet names for each other is a great indicator of how happy a couple is. A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that quantity was important: the more a�?insider languagea�? couples use, the higher their relationship satisfaction tended to be.

It makes sense, you know when your better half calls you using a pet name as it makes you melt! You are bound to feel loved and special at the same time that you can sacrifice whatever it takes to keep both of you happy. This shows couples are deeply bonded to the extent of constructing their own a�?mini-worlda�? with its own language.

Pet names tend to be things like honey, cupcake something that we find delicious and attractive about our partners.

When couples have known each other for a long time, their pet names tend to be even more loving and personal.

Each and every pet name should have a meaning, do not just copy other peoplea��s pet names. You have to understand that they create a boundary. It is a way to identify the relationship as exclusive because when people around you overhear your cute conversation, they know youa��re committed to each other.

Cute nicknames and code words pave the way to a playful, resilient, and satisfying relationship with your significant other. Nicknames and made-up language is an easy way to inject positive communication into everyday life. In fact, ita��s probably the single easiest thing you can do to keep your romance going strong. Partners with pet names for each other, they do not struggle to communicate as a pet name creates an atmosphere for sane craziness. If you follow up!

Remember those times when your partner calls you by a cute pet name and your heart skips a beat. Few things are as endearing in a relationship as knowing that you are special enough to your partner to be called by a pet name. And yet there are certain aspects to the practice which can complicate matters or just make things awkward between you two. So here are a few things to keep in mind before using a pet name in a relationship.

Timing for using a pet name is crucial. Usually couples use pet names in a relationship only when they have got to know each other rather well. Calling your date a�?a�?sweetie-piea��a�� or greeting him with a a�?a�?Hello Handsomea��a�� can get rather awkward for your partner since some people believe that using pet names is akin to verbalising their commitment to a relationship. So come up with a pet name for your partner only when you both reached a reasonable level of comfort with each other. This is because you may be seen as coming on too strong if you start using a pet name too early and if your partner is the reserved kind, you might scare them off as well.

Sometimes it may happen that despite knowing each other for a while, you and your partner may still not have come up with pet names for each other. You may be dying to whisper sweet nothings to your lover while he or she may not yet be comfortable with highly personal expressions. This is not necessarily a sign that your relationship is lacking in emotional intimacy. Accept that some people take longer than others to be comfortable with terms of endearment.

While for some, a pet name may flow easily, for others, especially the discrete personalities, it may take a while to get used to them. Keep individual personalities and preferences in mind and avoid jumping to conclusions if your partner does not call you yet by an endearing phrase or name.

If you are aware that your partner would be pleased to be called by a pet name and yet you cannot get yourself to use it, decide to start small. A good idea would be practice it over the telephone rather than use it for the first time in a face to face conversation. So the next time, you hear your partnera��s voice on the phone, take a deep breath and answer as naturally as you can with a a�?Hi there, handsome/beautifula�?. You can be sure that the person at the other end will be smiling happily while you can take heart from the fact that from now on, the whole thing can only get easier.

The best pet names are those that say something nice about your partner. Terms of endearment like sugar, sweet pie, handsome, honey are the most common and safe. However, be careful before using expressions like a�?a�?sweetie-piea��a�� or a�?a�?pookiea��a�� for your boyfriend which might be too girlie for them. Also stay away from pet names for men which sound condescending like a�?buda�� or a�?a�?chumpa��a��.

Most women on the other hand may feel offended if referred to as a a�?a�?chicka��a�� or a�?a�?babea��a��. Only if you know her really well, go ahead with names like a�?a�?sexya��a�� or a�?a�?hottiea��a��. Again if you want to stand out from the crowd, by all means think of something creative, but ensure that it is not too enigmatic for your partner to get its meaning. Also make sure that you lover actually likes the name you have chosen for him or her. A far better way to decide on an unusual pet name for your partner would be to sound them out on a few options and then see which one they like best.

Lastly, consider where to use a pet name. Not everyone would take kindly to be called a�?babya�� in public. When you and your partner are in company or even among friends, try to stick to first names unless you are hanging out with a particularly close friend before whom your partner does not mind being addressed by a pet name. As a rule however, it would be far wiser to keep a pet name where it belongs a�� in private.

Using pet names in a relationship is a sign that your partner thinks you are special. This is because while anyone can call you by your first name, only your lover can come up with his or her own name for you. Even family members and close friends may have their own nick names for you but it is not just the same thing as when you partner calls you by that special term of endearment.

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