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Spoil him, call him a�?babesa��

DURING sweet days, most women call their partners baby, baby and they are really babies who need love, care and warmth!

Maintain the good standards of expressing your love daily and taking care of them till death does you apart and as for warmth, eeish it should be felt everywhere, both inside and outside. Meaning at home and even when they are inside!

Of late, the high number of men committing suicide is really troubling and at the end of the day it turns out that women are blamed or are said to be pushing men to the edge resulting in them cutting their lives short.

Of course we know some have failed to stomach that they are HIV positive and they commit suicide. As hard as it can be, one needs to support her partner through thick and thin. Communication is vital in any relationship and the minute it breaks down, it can be stressful and result in low levels of support for both.

A decline in the physical or emotional status of either may create a a�?cycle of distressa�? for the couple. If this happens, one persona��s distress also affects the other. High levels of emotional distress can strain the relationship. Good communication may be the most effective strategy for breaking this and it may also improve the quality of life for both.

Often, when the flames of love are growing dim at home, women tend to blame their husbands for becoming cold and distant. Sometimes, it is the womena��s attitudes or behaviours that have caused men to become frigid. It is not that love has died between them; it is just that the husband has shut down emotionally because of how his wife treats him.

Sisters, play your part and do not be the reason why your man ends up choosing death over life because of your actions or words!

You have to understand your baby and know that he cannot meet all your emotional needs. Many times, a man decides to pull away from his wife because of too many demands on him and when he fails to meet her expectations, he feels like a failure and distances himself from her.

Sisters, until you look to God to satisfy your emotional needs therea��s nothing that I or any other man on the planet can do to satisfy you. Do not place a huge burden on your man as is the case with some women where they expect their husbands to first figure out what all of their needs are and then meet their own.

If you make your man feel like a failure, it can be one of the reasons of pushing him to the edge of choosing death over you or life!

It is also important for women to realise that their husbands have emotional needs that are just as important as theirs. Often, when women feel that their husbands are not meeting their needs, they become hurtful and unkind towards them. This approach makes most husbands pull away because they do not feel respected, a significant emotional need for men.

Sisters if you were really to speak to your best friends the way you do when speaking to your hubbies, believe me you wouldna��t have those friends for very long!

Another need that men have, which is greater than their need for respect or even for sex, is their need to see their wives happy. a�?Ita��s important for women to realise that for a man to be in a marriage where his wife isna��t happy, that has to be the most crushing thing in the world.

Another problem in many marriages is that women have usurped their husbanda��s role as the familya��s leader.

Scripture teaches that the husband is the spiritual head of the home. It is crucial for women to step back and let the men feel they are in control. I am sure that will not hurt and even if you want things to be done your way, present your idea in a respectable manner.

For too long, I think the society has painted men as the bad guys in marriage, but at times women are not acting responsibly as well. The two are a team and need each othera��s support and love. All that is needed is for everyone to feel loved no matter what is happening.

Love can conquer it all!

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That was a must read article for all ladies, a�?Men are simple animals.a�?

N.Ncube certainly knows us men, judging by her 1-7 article on womena��s issues. Keep that up, wish for such!

Thanks for your humble article. Enjoy your day.

The heart is a generous muscle and there is enough love to go around.

Hey sisi, I love your advice to women and ever since i started reading them and applying those things in my relationship, my man is the happiest man on earth. Keep up the good work and may God bless you.

Hi Nhla, loved your article in B-Metro and they are really good.

Hey I greatly salute you for your column. You tickled me up about washing after sex and been doing it for the past 22 years, ita��s more good than wiping up. You are our own Blues Mai Chisamba.

Uyasinceda MaNcue, subantshintshile abanye lapha ezindlini.

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