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Men are simple animals

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Week in week out, I find myself responding to a certain question which comes in different versions seeking the same answer and in its simplest form it goes, a�?What should I do to make our relationship last long?a�?

And my answer is always that one should realise that men are simple animals who are just as easy as babies to please.
Yes a�?babya�� easy to please, the candy style if you follow my drift.

What women think men want from them causes women to have resentment and anger toward men, and feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm, romantic partnership.

What men think women want from them causes them much of the same feeling and frustration.

The sad part is that it does not have to be this way, if only we would realise that both men and women are human beings first and pretty much want the same thing.

Honest communication is top priority for men. They want a woman who answers questions honestly and perhaps even volunteers information, but mind what you reveal. They want a woman who confidently asks for her wants and needs to be met.

They want a woman who can see the truth and tell it like it is while communicating with kindness. Men want a woman who can communicate without being too critical, who cares about preserving his and her dignity. As much as communication is important, be a good listener as well not you talking all the time.

Great men want and need straightforward, courageous communication without anger or criticism. One way to attract a great man and build a satisfying relationship is to learn how to communicate your truth and needs effectively.

Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation a�� either materially or emotionally. Men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity. Men want a woman to be active and independent, to have her own friends and interests.

On the other hand, men treasure time spent with a loving partner.

Men want what women want a�� a whole partner. One powerful way to attract a great man and build a vibrant relationship is to create a full, rewarding life for your own fulfilment.

Men want no manipulation of any kind. They do not want to read their partnera��s mind or try to interpret signals. They do not want to be forced to move faster in a relationship than they are ready. They do not want to be manipulated into taking all the blame for things gone wrong. They do not want to be on the receiving end of game playing.

Men will not tolerate manipulation of any kind for any significant length of time. To attract a great man and build a wonderful relationship learn to ask without hesitation for what you want and need in every area of your life. Learn to be aware of his timing and his time-line. Learn how to acknowledge and bestow praise.

Men want a partner who can laugh at herself and who has courage and strength. They want a woman who can see her part in relationship dynamics and own it. She has to be emotionally stable. Men want a woman who is developing herself personally, and who takes responsibility for her emotional experience.

Men want women who are emotionally mature. Maturity does not mean lack of emotions. It does mean the ability to handle emotions responsibly. To attract a great man and build a long-term relationship, learn to take responsibility for your emotional experience and expression.

Fidelity is an absolute must. In fact, men want a woman who does not have a a�?roaming eyea�? and who can wholeheartedly commit to the relationship. Many may define commitment as fidelity plus the willingness to work on the relationship a�� even when the going gets tough.

Here is great news for those women who are resigned to the myth that all men cheat: infidelity and a�?a roaming eyea�? are as distasteful to men as they are to women. Great men know how to build a wonderful relationship, and they know fidelity is the main ingredient.

Many women treat men in ways that diminish their egos, making them feel inadequate. Men would rather have more praise, more acknowledgment of what they do right, more acknowledgment that they are great guys who are loved and appreciated.

Most men want acknowledgment and appreciation from women. Learning to acknowledge instead of making your partner wrong is one of the most powerful relationship survival tools available to you.

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