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Love should be mutual

Nhlalwenhle Ncube

MERRY Christmas my lovely sisters! As the year comes to an end, I would love to encourage you to only stick to someone who loves you, not those ones who are not giving it back because love should be mutual.

My sister, never chase a man who is not interested in you. Even though there may be obvious signs a guy wants you to chase him, you shouldn’t play such mind games especially if he’s not into you.

In our society, many people are under the impression that it is the men who are supposed to go out in pursuit of women who have captured their fancies, but there’s nothing wrong with a woman being the first person to shoot when she’s interested in a certain man.

There are some situations where a lady falls in love with a man, but he doesn’t pay any attention to her and doesn’t accept her feelings. Unfortunately, some women seem to forget their worth and start chasing after such men. This is one of the biggest mistakes.

Each woman should understand that no man is worth her tears and suffering if he doesn’t love you as much as you love him.

There are many reasons one should not chase after a man who appears not serious and not in love. Sometimes, women crave men that are harmful to them. You should understand that the man you are chasing may not necessarily be good for you. You have to think about your life critically if you don’t want to break your own heart.

If you keep forcing things, you are bound to hurt yourself after wasting your time. Following a man like a dog craving for attention is not attractive at all. If you do that, he will toy with your heart. Your heart will suffer again and again. You should stop chasing him and see where he stands, without putting pressure on him.

The worst thing is that while you are chasing a man, your self-esteem is getting ruined. It is not surprising that when that man keeps rejecting you all the time, your self-confidence and self-esteem are the first things to suffer.

When you get busy with running after a man, your life will be on halt and you are bound not to notice that your own life is passing you by. You are just ruining your chances of other romantic relationships. And when you finally meet the one who deserves you, you might not have any desire to enjoy a relationship with him.

When someone plays with your feelings, and hurts your soul, it gets to affect your mental health and well-being. Stop chasing him, if he cares, he will chase you. Remember that when a man wants to be with a woman, he will do everything possible to make her happy. However, if he doesn’t like you and doesn’t want to be with you, there is no need to waste your time running after him.

At times some women follow men everywhere because they will be afraid of losing them. They start following him everywhere, monitoring his social media accounts then become exhausted before they even know it. Stress and anxiety will then take control.

When a girl starts chasing a guy, she wants to know everything about him: what daily schedule he has, where he lives, what bar he visits every Friday, and so on. She literally becomes a stalker. She forgets about her own life and loved ones. Stop chasing him and he will come back.

After expending energy and resources chasing him, will he really be yours? Sometimes, after going through all that stress, you might realise that this man is much worse than you thought. He might not even be your ideal man, so why put yourself in such a relationship?

Sisters, always remember that you can still be happy and enjoy life without a man around. Everyone deserves a loving man, not those ones who act as if they are from their own unique planet where love does not exist. In many cases, when a woman chases a man, she thinks that her happiness and well-being depends on being with this man. It means that she is dependent on him to be happy and is unable to find happiness on her own. So, sisters, stop chasing men. Love should be mutual.

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