love potion 2

Know what you want in a relationship

Nhlalwenhle Ncube

EVERY woman has that dream of spending the rest of her life with a a�?soul matea�? and though often times it is said there is no theory to a happy marriage, I believe there are points to keep in mind in the struggle to keep the fire burning.

Commitment is crucial in a relationship and ita��s very important. This is the culmination of a love relationship between two individuals which signifies that people involved in the relationship love, sacrifice, understand and are ready to spend their whole life with each other. Commitment basically means a decision making procedure in a persona��s life where one chooses the person they love the most as a life partner. Commitment needs to be displayed by both the individuals to make any sense of the word.

The benefits of a committed relationship are many as it gives your life stability, resilience and belief making it healthy and beautiful. You need to be absolutely clear in your mind about the love of a person you are going to be committed to. Listen to your heart, if you are overjoyed at the name or thought of your lover or the idea of meeting him and a sense of loyalty emanates from within, then you are on the right track. It will be a wise decision to get committed to that person because your heart tells you that.

For developing a strong relationship, honesty is another aspect that has a significant contribution. Make sure you are not hiding many things from your lover that you think he does have a right to know about.

Spending a good amount of time is an important thing before going into a serious relationship. Time lets you know the person, his likes and dislikes, nature and habits etc in detail and provides you the opportunity to understand how much you relate to or are comfortable with the other person to go into a long term relationship. Spending time will also give you the opportunity to clear any wrong notions that you have formed in the mind about your partner, and may altogether lead to a different perspective towards him. There is a need to be absolutely original and you should not try to be someone different in front of him so that he is also able to judge and understand you.

A committed relationship is one where both the partners are equal in many important aspects of life like decision making and freedom of actions. None of the two should consider himself higher or superior than the other. With the sense of equality, comes a sense of comfort and stability in a relationship as the individual feels empowered and in control.

The couples where one is patronising or commanding while the other is submissive and follows what the other says without arguments or suggestions is not likely to be a successful relationship. The reason behind this is there is always a sense of dissatisfaction in one of the partners. Thata��s where constructive arguments come to play!!!

To have a happy long term relationship you should respect your partner. The interaction should be such that you listen to your partner, respect and seek to understand them by asking questions. At no point of time, should a person feel that he/she gets ridiculed or put down on every suggestion made or comment given. This is harmful for a successful relationship.

Ita��s all about quality over quantity. It doesna��t matter how much time you and your partner spend together. The most important part is about the quality of this time.

Therea��s a huge difference between having dinner at a table while talking about your day at work, versus having dinner while sitting on a couch watching a soapie. Ita��s fine to zone out together and enjoy distractions, but ita��s crucial to make sure you two are still engaging and spending quality time together to maintain a deep connection.

Spending time together with your partner is important. But just as important is spending time apart. Being able to do your own things and remain independent is vital.

When couples spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy co-dependence. Maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long-lasting partnership.

Often, we forget to let other people in our lives know that we appreciate them. We think it, but we dona��t remember to show it. This occurs in our romantic relationships as well. Show your special someone that you love him or her. This could be done with words, cards, flowers, acts of kindness, or more. Remember, a flower a day keeps the fights at bay. Okay, maybe not every day, but you get the point.

Lastly, sex is important in cultivating a flourishing relationship.

The adult game is simple, the more you have it, the more you want it. The other side of that is true as well. The less you have it, the less you want it a�� and, unfortunately, the less youa��ll feel connected to your partner.

Keep your sex life alive and interesting.

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