Going about it the other way

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IT’S sexy, pleasurable and weird, the list goes on and on to describe anal or butt sex. One thing I know is that most women are curious and have got a lot of questions about it.

Let me start by making a confession that I was reluctant to write about this topic of anal sex as I know it’s a controversial issue and I risk being judged harshly. Let me start by setting the record straight that I am not promoting it, but since I always get people curious about it, I just decided to share the information.

Experts say anal sex is when you leave the cookie-jar and have the sexual activity in the anus.

Of late I have been getting a lot of questions pertaining to the “back” position and I will share with you the little that I got from my research online and through interviews. To begin with, sexually transmitted diseases can be spread even through the anal area.

This is because the lining of the anus is prone to tearing if there is not enough lubrication. This creates small tears in the anus where it is easier for the virus to get in. As with any other type of sex, you should use condoms.

I decided to make emphasis on use of protection because during a certain ladies talk we debated on the issue as others believed that if you did not trust someone’s HIV status, it was better to go the “back” way. Bear in mind that it’s not safe as well! It also has got health risks.

It is also possible to get pregnant through anal sex if semen runs out of the anus into the opening of the vagina, which is not far, another good reason to use a condom.

Butt sex is pleasurable and most men love it because it’s tighter than the “normal” sexual activity. It provides pleasing tightness around the one-eyed monster!

Couples who intend to have a pleasurable moment using the “back” way should make sure that there is enough lubrication. The tissue of the anus is very fragile therefore it is important that additional lubrication is used. If there is no lubrication, you will find it not pleasurable, but there will be pain, discomfort and if your partner is the vigorous type, tissues might be torn.

Communication becomes crucial when you decide to go the anal way. Comfort and relaxation are important for a pleasurable experience!

It is said that before you engage in anal sex, make sure that you empty the bowels and wash well before and after the game. This point makes it crucial for the lovebirds to discuss and agree on the “back” way.

Another important point is never to put the one-eyed monster into the cookie jar after it has been in the anus without changing the condom or washing it first.

You have to understand that the bacteria in the anus can cause severe vaginal infections. In addition, do not go for blow job without washing first. Just as bacteria in the anus can cause severe vaginal infections, it can also cause oral and intestinal infections.

If it happens that one starts bleeding after anal sex, it is important to rush and seek medical attention.

The other common question is whether “back” sex is painful or not. For the first time, it should be done nice and slow because if it’s done the opposite way, definitely it will be like sexual intercourse made in hell. If done the right way, experts say it can be really pleasant and some women who struggle to reach the Big O claim the “back” way has proved that orgasm is for everyone.

When you get used to it, it will be just similar to vaginal intercourse!

Now with this information, you can then choose whether you want to try the “back” way or not. Remember, the anus can be an erogenous zone that responds to sexual stimulation. The following statement left me in stitches: I asked someone about “back” sex and I had referred to it as abnormal sex, but he had this to say to me, “I do not find anything abnormal with that, to me it’s normal and abnormal sex would be ear sex”.

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