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Go for sex not painkillers

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IN last week’s article I said sex is a need and it’s not just that, it is a painkiller! So ladies, next time when in pain during your monthly period, do not take painkillers, but go for the adult game!

I know most people believe that  it is taboo to have sex during that time of the month with some even going to the extent of faking period just to avoid playing the adult game. If you are such a person, you do not know what you are missing out on.

Women have got different ways of dealing with that time of the month with some embracing the arrival with sheer excitement because they will have gone another month without accidentally getting pregnant. For some it makes them feel gross, clutching a hot water bottle and popping painkillers left, right and centre to make their cramps out.

These different ways of dealing with your menstruation have translated into who will and who definitely will not have sex on their period. And that’s fine, everyone is entitled to their opinion and can be into it, or repulsed by it as they please. However, there’s definitely a bit of an annoying taboo surrounding period sex which encourages fence-sitters on the topic to shy away from the activity leaving them often on ‘‘Blowjob duty’’ during that time of the month.

I encourage you to have sex during that time of the month as it is natural and safe for both partners. Of course, it is a dirty one, so to avoid stained sheets, you must put a towel on the bed or do it on the shower. Do not be concerned if you see dark red or brown clumps during or after sex; that’s just older blood and cells of your uterine lining, and it’s perfectly normal.

One thing most women share is that during menstruation they feel more aroused and more sensitive. That’s because estrogen and testosterone are low on day 1, but they start to rise by day 3. Plus, the flow can serve as extra lubrication during sex, which can also increase pleasure.  For those who usually complain of being too dry, this will be your time to enjoy.

Believe it or not, orgasms can actually ease the brutal pain of menstrual cramps, as they force your pelvic muscles to chill out and relax. You know that floppy post-O feeling you get when you are super satisfied, that’s the same feeling you get when you do it on your period. Instead of taking pain killers, just have it and reach a big O, definitely it will cure you.

We really need to get our facts straight about period blood. Period blood isn’t exactly the same as real blood. It’s actually just the lining of your womb shedding itself, which happens to be too red, so educate your partner that it’s not a painful situation and hopefully their fears will disappear. Tell him how much you crave for dirty sex and the benefits you get.

It’s crucial to practice safe sex while you are having your period because you could still get or transmit an STI, so during this time of the month, it is strongly recommended that you use protection to decrease the risk.

Sexual activity during menstruation can be even more pleasurable than at other times of the month!

FEEDBACK
Someone asked me to share this and hope to get response:

Do not support cheating, but this leaves matters to be argued. A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman can’t cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while men do not have sex with emotions, women can’t have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.

Men don’t equate sex with love. That’s what women will never understand. A man is having sex with you doesn’t mean he loves you. For men, sex and love are two different things. That your man is cheating on you doesn’t mean he has stopped loving you. But I can’t say the same for women. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never be the same again. That’s why we discourage women, more than men, to stop cheating. They can’t handle the emotional conflict that comes with cheating. That’s the reason an observant man will notice that his woman is cheating on him once she starts doing it.

Women can’t cheat on their partners with people they are not emotionally involved with. They attach emotions to everything. That’s why you can’t always trust their judgment. When a joke is cracked, most women who laugh are not laughing because the joke is funny but because they like the person who cracked the joke. If they don’t like you, no matter how funny your joke, they won’t laugh. But when a man laughs at a joke, it’s because the joke is funny, not because he likes the comedian. We are not always sentimental and emotionally involved.

Every relationship I know begins to flounder once a woman cheats. There are many men who cheat on their partners but still show them love. But it is very hard to find a relationship in which a woman is cheating and things still remained the same.True or false?

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