private lounge spotlight 2

Follow the light

Nhlalwenhle Ncube

WONDERING what I am talking about? Yes,A� now in Bulawayo all men just follow the light and all they want is to get a glimpse of those strippers as if they have never seen naked women in their lives.

Surprisingly, most of the men who throng the newly opened joint for adult entertainment are married men expected to be at their homes warming their wives, but alas they brave the chilly weather and spend hours watching those ladiesa�� erotic moves which I can bet with my last cent leave most of them charged.

The truth is that most of these men are so eager to watch strippers do what they know best and they want to watch without being disturbed as in their homes they are never given such an opportunity. When its lovemaking time, women switch off lights and ita��s deal done!

Sisters, leta��s give them all that they want at home so that they do not spend nights out watching strippers! Surely if he is satisfied at home, I do not see any reason he will want to be out there following the light so he gets to see another womana��s privates.

A real man wants a woman who is playful. Therea��s something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of a�?connectiona�? that comes with being playful.

Men love to be active and to play. They were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through action.

Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to talk their way into a mana��s heart. But the fact is that men dona��t a�?feel ita�? for you because of what you say.A� Ita��s not your words that make a man attracted to you, ita��s the experiences you create with him.

It is not like most men want those acrobatic porno stunts, but the truth is, most guys are a little more predictable in their bedroom proclivities.

They just want a sex life thata��s a little spicy, a little sweet, and still occasionally surprising. Easy, right? Sure it is! To make the bedroom a sexual sanctuary, here are the things men desire most.

Men usually make the first move, but ita��s so much more rewarding and fun when they get to know that you are also hungry for them. Light the match!A� Again I repeat this week, wear sexy lingerie when going to bed. Obviously they will rip it off and throw it on the floor, but it counts. Do not dress as if you are an onion and need to be peeled. Men do not want a delayed game!

Dona��t be fooled by what you see in movies where men are always horny and ready to screw like RIGHT NOW. Truth is, they love the slow build. Foreplay is crucial and as a woman you should take part not to be one of those whom we understand will say to their partners, wake me up when you are done. No, no, take part and enjoy the benefits and do not make it appear as if ita��s rape.

Dirty talk is also important. They love it and want it during the game. If you are not good with words, at least some encouraging moans will let him know that he is on the right track. Even mentioning his name makes him go crazy.

If men want to play out a fantasy or try a new position, I hope youa��ll at least be open to trying. And sisters I promise a��they will do the same for you.

There is always that assumed serious sex tone that most couples go with, believe me it can be a turn-off. What happens sisters if you add a bit of humour in your sex life? Laugh and share a bit of sexual jokes that erase that level of seriousness that easily creates awkward moments. Imagine when things go wrong, it can either be hilarious, or devastating. The ability to laugh off a sex error makes a huge difference and that error can be easily corrected.

The other thing as sisters, we dona��t have to believe that men are responsible for our orgasm. Leta��s make it team work.

It never hurts to put an effort in the bedroom game, it actually encourages the other involved partner to even put more effort to the advantage of both of you.

Once you create that I and he mentality, you are building a clear path leading to disappointment. If anything goes wrong like a team, re-arrange, re-strategise and suggest a better position and pursue an all-night-filled orgasm together. Sisters never let the fire quell; bring out that sexy lingerie, and dangle it in front of him like a carrot, he will always have an option before he follows the light that has got many sisters worried.

Share your views on 0712978471