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Dry spell needs attention

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WHEN you are used to having a certain degree of natural lubrication for your vajayjay, it can be somewhat unsettling to experience a sudden dry spell.

This is a problem one must deal with as soon as possible before things get out of hand in a relationship.

Dry spell, we are talking of that time when you fail to be ‘‘wet’’ despite foreplay and for some, you can be a little bit wet, but soon get dry during the adult game, making it painful for both parties. If you have such a problem, know that you are not alone and all you need to do is deal with it.

It is unfortunate that some women upon discovering their situation, ignore and act as if everything is normal. They will pretend as if they are not interested in sex and at the end of the day, their partners get confused about what will be happening. The secret is to be honest with your partner.

There is one incident I know where the husband decided to look for a girlfriend jut to check whether the problem was him or the woman. Most women like to play clever, it seems this woman in question after realising she had a problem, started accusing her husband of having the weakness of failing to turn her on. The husband without saying much, decided to test outside. Thereafter, he became untouchable and when she decided to come clean with her problem, it is when the man told her the truth and how far she had pushed him to ‘‘test’’ himself.

Do not wait till it’s late. As a couple you are one and you should share problems and find solutions together!

I know most women are eager to know the causes of this unpleasant condition and from my research I discovered that it is impossible to pick one thing as there are many factors to be considered.

A woman’s body is designed to produce a slippery natural lubrication when she is sexually aroused in order to facilitate the insertion of the manhood into the vajayjay. In the real world, women need a bit more warming up than their partners when it’s time to have intercourse. In this case, the solution could be as simple as building up the sexual anticipation with more foreplay. Anything less can result in the dry spell.

If lack of arousal is the cause of the vaginal dryness, then an open dialogue between partners can do wonders to discover what will stimulate sexual arousal. When it comes to explaining what gets your motor running, never be shy and you can also lead him for it to be fun.

Emotional stress can also be a problem. Some people when stressed and under pressure, become automatically off in everything.

Find what helps you unwind, whether it’s relaxing music, sexy massage or your favourite drink. When you are less stressed, your body will often follow.

Anxiety, stress, and extreme emotional circumstances can lead to vaginal dryness. Psychological factors can escalate to low sexual desire. Stressed women often experience insufficient blood flow to the vagina, reducing regular lubrication and in some instances, completely inhibiting it. Intercourse becomes difficult, frustrating and undesirable.

So far I think this drives us to one conclusion, if a woman is not wet it does not automatically equate to lack of proper arousal, there are a lot of other factors that can be at play.

One of the common triggers of vaginal dryness is douching (washing or cleaning out the inside of the vagina with water or other mixtures of fluids). This is a common trend as some women resort to herbs and other concoctions for tightening,  unfortunately leading to severe dryness. It is high time women quit douching.

You will be surprised how often young women suffer from vaginal dryness and I wouldn’t recommend that it’s something you should ignore. It’s very essential for your vajayjay to be moist, not because it only makes sex pleasurable, but wetness keeps tissues healthy and even serves as a line of defence against infections and STDs.

Pregnancy and childbirth create imbalances in hormones, putting a great deal of stress on the body. Normal vaginal acidity levels may decrease along with oestrogen hormone levels. The acidity helps to keep vaginal tissue healthy and if it fluctuates or is reduced, the amount of vaginal lubrication and natural defence against infection are decreased.

These situations will usually reverse after breastfeeding is discontinued.

Nevertheless, we have covered a lot of causes that may trigger vaginal dryness, it’s good to note that it’s not the end of the world as there are several solutions one can administer if she finds herself in a vaginal dry sexual marriage situation.

Below are the few solutions that you can try.

As sisters we must be in a position to know what triggers our bodies. For example avoid using douches, bubble baths, scented soaps and lotions around the sensitive vaginal area, as these products can worsen dryness. Exercise to increase energy and oxygen moving through the body. Drink plenty of water (not soda) to ensure that your body is well-hydrated and eat a balanced diet.

In some cases, doctors recommend localised treatments like vaginal oestrogen inserts. According to an online medical journal ‘‘Local oestrogen hormone treatments that are inserted into the vagina in the form of a ring, pellet or cream can complement systemic medications that raise systemic levels of oestrogen,” Goldstein says.

In addition to oestrogen-based therapies, other approaches that may bring relief especially from painful sex include lubricants. These lubricants include silicone-based, oil-based, and water-based products. Also take your time before having sex  to make sure that you are fully relaxed and aroused and drinking six to eight glasses of water a day will help keep your tissues moist.

Lubricate, and lubricate some more. Many women achieve instant relief simply by using a lubricant. You may need to experiment to find one that works best for you. Avoid personal hygiene sprays as chemicals in these products can be irritating to delicate tissues that line the vajayjay.

That being said, I know we all have that urge to have a steamy moment with our partners, as a result don’t let vaginal dryness be an obstacle to give you a satisfying sexual life.

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