Always stay positive

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DO what makes you feel good! The year is about to end, just look back and celebrate that you managed to sail through despite all the challenges you faced during the year.

It is unfortunate that most women want to spend more time concentrating on the negative aspects of their lives, but hey, life is too short, one has to try and make the best out of it.

Remember that the more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate!

I know someone somewhere is already thinking otherwise and maybe calling me names because she thinks in her life there is nothing to celebrate. Just hold on and hear me out my sister.

No matter the problems you have in your life, there is always something to celebrate and it should bring a smile on your face. Even if your man dumps you, you do not have to cry for him forever, but just think positively and check how much he had taken away your happiness. Now that the “dog” is gone, laugh it out.

I know most of the times, the stressing thing is how one will make ends meet when he is gone ,leaving you with the children, but still, put on a brave face knowing that he has left you with lifetime companions.

You know as women we go through a lot in life, but still we have to soldier on. One thing I have realised is that when women meet, they spend more time sharing their problems. It is as if they are cursed and suffering is a normal thing.

No sisters, it is high time we let go of this syndrome and concentrate on the positive.

Sisters, do what makes you feel good. The first step is having high self-esteem. Believe in yourself and be confident.

It is said that optimism can be learnt just like a new hobby. I know staying upbeat when things are not going well can be challenging. Let me share with you tips which can assist you in staying positive and celebrating your existence.

In life never take anything for granted, no matter how small it could be. Show gratitude and be satisfied with what you have. Some women live a miserable life because they are never satisfied and keep on comparing themselves with others. If you live your life that way, believe me, you will end up thinking that you are cursed when you are not. Be happy with what you have and plan for the best. If you believe in yourself, then you will have every reason to celebrate your life.

In addition to general gratitude, count your blessings. Can you imagine life without a family and good health. These two things are very important in life and if they were to be taken away from you, believe me, you would realise that you should have celebrated those things.

The other thing which usually takes away women’s happiness is the problem of not forgiving. Just forgive all those who step on your toes and move on. You will realise that there is more to celebrate in life than just holding on to grudges. Some women even end up ruining their children’s lives by failing to forgive those “sperm donors” who later come back in their lives asking to support their children when they would have disappeared during the pregnancy period. Forgive him and take the little that he contributes because you never know what tomorrow has in store for you.

Sisters, you have to be prepared to lose everything to gain yourself. Remember your happiness comes first. Just be positive in everything you do and realise that the world can be a better place, more than you have ever imagined.

This is your month, celebrate your life and spend more time with people who lift your morale and make you realise that you are a “super woman.”

Food for thought.

Let me share with you three of Oprah’s sayings:
Surround yourself with people who are only going to lift you higher.

The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change her future by merely changing their future.

Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.

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