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Make everyday memorable!

Nhlalwenhle Ncube

TONY Robbins, a motivational speaker once said, “Each day we must strive for constant and never ending improvement.”

This shows people should not wait for days like Valentine’s and birthdays to express how much they care and love their partners, but it should be a daily dose.

Love, like a flower, needs the sun and water to survive. It also requires a feeling of warm personal attachment and deep affection daily.

In a doctor’s case, an apple a day keeps the doctor at bay, borrowing from this expression I am forced to coin my phrase, which says “showing love daily keeps the divorce papers in courts”.

Remember, your daily habits determine the quality of your relationship with your partner. We all know that this life is too short and anyone can die any second therefore couples should enjoy while it lasts so that they do not live a life of regrets wishing if only they had used their time to the most and enjoyed each other’s company.

Love him as if you will never see tomorrow and let your words be accompanied by actions. Be practical, it buttresses your point of expression. Even without reminding him how much he means to you, let it be an obvious issue.

Valentine’s Day or birthday is not the only day to celebrate your relationship or to heal wounds. In life, those who are great are those who dare follow their love through the good times and the bad.

Make it an effort to show the one you love how much they mean to you. Make everyday a memorable one forever!

After all, we all work hard so we can in the end have a successful and happy relationship. Sisters please don’t relax!!!!!

Marshal Munhumumwe once sang “rudo imoto runoto kuchidzirwa ana amai,” which loosely translates to “love is a fire that you have to keep stoking.”

I know this might sound crazy but I believe whatever you got for your Valentine or birthday says a lot about your relationship. Do not get over the moon if your man just bought you a mug or a card as the special present.

I know people usually comfort themselves by saying that the fact she remembered me means a lot. No no my sister, do not be misled.

Are you as cheap as a mug or card, definitely not!

At times these presents say a lot. If you try to play nice towards your birthday and Valentine’s Day so that you get a present, you are bound to be given the cheapest present on earth.

Most of the times, if he is not buying you those expensive gifts, someone else is being spoiled!

Remember you are the queen and should be constantly thanked for being a breeder, shit wiper and loving mother above all.

The point I am driving is that you are definitely doing something wrong if you are only worth a mug! You better have a partner who does not get you anything on Valentine or your Birthday, but make you a happy person all the days of your life.

Presents are not the only pampering way, but whatever you do counts most! Valuing presents on monetary value is a very inaccurate yardstick.

Love that lasts is the result of partners embedding themselves in each other’s brains in a positive way. Memory circuits and pleasure get all wound up together so that the other person becomes integral to the very structure of your brain and you become part of the structure of his. Strive to make your love last by taking your partner’s breath away. Do something amazingly thoughtful and out of the ordinary and try to incorporate an element of surprise to it, something which will stay in his mind forever.

As a woman, you should do something special on a regular basis. A phone call every day just to touch base for a few minutes. Once he begins to expect these things, you will always be close to his awareness.

I was inspired this weekend when I was listening to Dudu Manhenga on radio when she said that her husband gives her foot massage every time when she gets home from work.

The other thing, never avoid eye gazing. Of course couples seem to do this naturally, but don’t drop this strong bonding behaviour just because the relationship has progressed. This is one way to keep the romance alive and is especially powerful when making love.

Take it as your responsibility to please your partner sexually. Make it clear that his pleasure is your pleasure and you want to discover everything that turns him on. He’ll be happy to have you experiment with him. Likewise, making you happy will make him feel good. And research shows that the sexual pleasure of one partner increases the pleasure of the other partner.

Sisters, at times it’s not all about your partner, but the people he values most in his life. If you show kindness and love for someone he loves, you will earn major points. When you enter a relationship, you also enter a relationship with all his family and friends. Show him that the people who are important to him are also important to you. Do great things for people he loves!

Lastly, boost the chemicals of love. There are many brain chemicals that go into the feeling of love and attachment.

Oxytocin is known as the bonding, trust, and cuddle hormone. Oxytocin is enhanced by watching romantic movies together, holding hands, cuddling, and long, loving eye contact. Women usually have more oxytocin than men, but according to one study, a man’s level of oxytocin goes up 500 percent after making love. Being too busy to make love pushes couples apart.

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