Simangaliso Muringi

12 YEARS NO SEX. . . Sex starved woman asks court’s help

Gibson Mhaka
WE are all born sexual creatures, but ita��s a pity that some people despise and crash this natural gift from God.

These words aptly describe the marital dilemma of a 48-year-old Bulawayo woman who sued her 56-year-old husband accusing him of sexually starving her for 12 years.

The woman, Simangaliso Muringi, pleaded with the court to compel her husband Charles Ndadambi Muringi, a transport officer at Mpilo Hospital to stop denying her sex.

To justify her sexual starvation she said her husband of 24 years has deserted the matrimonial bedroom to sleep in a separate room.

Simangaliso said she even bought a new bed as a way of luring him back into their matrimonial bedroom but her efforts were all in vain.

She bared her soul at the Bulawayo Civil Court where she was seeking a restraining order against herA�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A�A� husband.

She told presiding magistrate Evylene Mashavakure that besides being sexually frustrated, her husband was also physically and verbally abusing her.

a�?The respondent is my husband and we have been legally married for 24 years with three children. My husband has been denying me sex for twelve years. We are now sleeping in separate bedrooms and I tried to have the issue solved but to no avail. I even tried my best to lure him back into the bedroom by buying a new bed. But all my efforts were in vain. I want him back in our bedroom. I am also failing to understand why he left the bedroom as he frequently visits it when changing his clothes.

a�?Whenever, I am coming back from work the respondent is in the habit of waiting for me by the gate where he physically and verbally abuses me in full view of our children and neighbours. I want this honourable court to stop him from abusing me,a�? Simangaliso told the bench.

In response, Charles said he decided to leave the bedroom because his wife was a a�?drunkarda�? and was also verbally abusing him.

a�?The applicant drinks alcohol and the other reason why I decided to desert our bedroom is that she utters bad words against me. Turning to the issue of abuse she is lying that I am physically abusing her. I only confronted and reprimanded her after she came home with her male friends who were playing the radio at high volume,a�? he said.

The magistrate however, ordered the respondent to stop abusing his wife before she referred the couple for counselling.